For so long the idea of self-care really stressed me out. I know it doesn’t make sense at first, but to me, it always felt like one more thing to add to my to-do list. The last thing I needed was more on my list whether it was to “care for myself” or not.
I believe it was around this same time that instagrammers also started sharing ideal morning and evening routines, and I remember feeling totally overwhelmed.
If only I could get into a meditation practice, I would be a calmer parent. If only I followed this exercise program, I would be happier and fit into the “skinny” clothes in my closet. There is always one more thing that is going to be the thing to make a change once and for all. You end up spinning your wheels and feeling like a failure each time.
There are three huge points that I missed that you may be missing too.
Self-care is not one big activity, but it’s a series of incremental changes to slowly improve your life.
For me, it’s creating systems that make my mornings easier. I never considered that creating systems for an efficient home was a form of self-care, but it absolutely is for me. These systems are constantly changing as my needs change. As soon as I start to feel out of whack, I can make small changes to find alignment in that area again.
Planning self-care should start with how you want to feel.
After you know your goal, then you can evaluate and try actions or activities that make you feel the way you want to feel. I want to feel calm and self-confident, and I have found that regular exercise gives me those feelings. Walking outside with a friend is even better!
Even the fanciest skin cream won’t fix your mindset.
I love silky hand creams and fresh, crisp candles as much as anyone, but you are not going to self-care your way out of a poor mindset. Do you need to change the way you talk to yourself? Do you lift yourself up each day, or are you your worst critic? Do you feel worthy of the best life has to offer? Are you in control of your life or is life in control of you? If this resonates with you, consider working through some vision exercises, catch yourself when you fall into negative self-talk habits, or even work with a counselor.
What does self-care mean to you? Do you need to rewrite your definition of self-care?
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